Author: Tabitha Driver
- The Hermit: I’ve thrown mega self-pity parties, assuming that no one else could ever understand my struggle.
- The Avoider: I’ve used my easy life as an excuse to not get involved in another’s problem, being terrified of not knowing what to say or do.
- The Bystander: I’ve winced as a brash, arrogant friend advises instead of listens.
- No one’s story is the same. No one.
- There is no absolute hierarchy of grief. A rebellious child could be more painful than an illness for one person and vice versa.
- We never know another’s past or inner struggles. Their life may not have been as easy as we assume.
- Pain is universal. It may be cloaked in differing circumstances, but we all understand pain and can empathize to an extent.
- If we only got involved in the stories that were identical to ours --well, we’d never reach out.
- We cannot expect to fully heal other’s pain. We are not God.
- We need each other --even if we bumble and make mistakes when trying to comfort or counsel.
- We need each other because our stories are different.
|Heather Lehman (Istanbul, Turkey)|
Cynicism is a protective barrier that we often use to deal with the insanity of our society: Politics often provides more problems than solutions; schools don’t educate our kids, and despite our resources and knowledge, poverty and disease continue to ...Read More